When was the last time I felt fantastico about myself? I don’t even recollect. Considering yourself to be fantastic is looked as if it is a sin. Such is the way in which we are raised. We are taught to compliment others for their good qualities. But we are not allowed to think ourselves to be good. It is good to think of your faults and take measures to rectify that. But those faults do not make you unworthy. Everybody has plus and minus points in their personalities. That doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t feel fantastico about ourselves.
The society will disapprove you if you think good about yourself. Unfortunately this is true for all cultures. What is the result? You wait for others to compliment you. You want to hear only good things about yourselves. If other do not pay any compliment you are unhappy. If they speak bad about you, you are devastated. So how you feel is very closely linked to what others have to say about you. Now that isn’t good.
There is one more thing which prevents us from feeling fantastico about ourselves. At one point we are very happy. Everything in our life is going fine. Then suddenly some one tells us or we come to know that some other person is doing better than us. All that fantastico feeling is gone. This is because we are always taught that we should be better than others. We should get one mark extra than our neighbour. We should draw a rupee more than our colleague. We should get this more than that person and that. The list is endless.
I feel that we should change those norms of behaviour which do more bad than good to us. Not appreciating ourselves is one of those etiquettes in the rule books which we are taught. I feel it is high time that this rule has to be shown the door. Please we should feel fantastic about ourselves. Not only that we should teach our children as well to feel fantastisco about themselves.
This will solve many of the problems. First of all, it will increase the happiness quotient in our lives for sure. We will feel good about ourselves. Most importantly our feeling good will not be dependent on any other person.
Why compare? Everybody is born on a different date. Even if some may be born on the same date, their lives are going to be entirely different. The expiry date of each person is also different and not known to us. So why compare and mar the happiness. Just be yourself. You yourself are fantastico. Don’t compare. Don’t demean yourself. Love yourself. Feel good about yourself.