“Rohit
wash your handkerchief and socks.” My aunt told her seven years old
son who had returned home after a game of cricket. His handkerchief
was soaked in sweat. My aunt was very keen that he should be
independent. So she had issued a dictat that Rohit should wash his
socks and handkerchief on his own.
“I
am not a girl to do the washing.” Rohit replied. My aunt knew that
Rohit would resist until washing his own clothes became his habit.
But this sort of reply was unexpected. Never ever in her house my
aunt had divided the work on the basis of gender. Never had she said
that this work was his and that task was her. Then where from had
Rohit learnt that washing was a woman’s job.
That
whole night my aunt was unable to sleep. She was worried about her
son and the prejudices which he was carrying. She wasn’t sure how
she was going to handle the situation. But she had to do something.
She did not wish that Rohit should grow up thinking that some jobs
are best left to women.
The
next she woke up Rohit early. Usually Rohit slept till eight in the
morning as his school was in the afternoon. She took him to the
bathroom. There Ravi uncle, Rohit’s father was washing his clothes.
Rohit could not believe that his father was doing the laundry.
Then
my aunt brought Rohit to the drawing room. She gave him his mug of
milk and spoke. “ Rohit I want to speak to you about something.”
“Yes,
Mom. Please tell.” He said.
“Yesterday
you said that you were not a girl to wash your own handkerchief and
socks. Beta, I am deeply hurt by this reply of yours.”
“Why Mom? Did I say anything wrong.”
“Honestly
speaking yes Beta. Washing
is not a job which should be done only by women.” My aunt said.
“Mom
they show in all the television commercials and even in movies, it is
always the bai – the woman who does the laundry.” Rohit replied
innocently.
“Beta
we have to change this thinking. Both men and women are equal. Women
can fly the airplanes and men can wash clothes too.”
“Yes,
I saw Daddy wash the clothes today.” Rohit said. My aunt was happy
that Rohit had learnt something through an example.
“I
am not saying that it is only the men who should do all the washing.
All that I am saying is that the job of laundry should not be
considered as the job of the woman. When I have time, I do the
laundry. When I am busy or bored your father washes the clothes. It
is about living together, loving each other and sharing the load.”
“Yes Mom.” Rohit said as he left the room.
“Where
are you going?” My aunt asked.
“To
wash my handkerchief and socks. Even I am going to share the load.”
Rohit said. My aunt felt relaxed.
“I am joining the Ariel #ShareTheLoad campaign at BlogAdda and blogging about the prejudice related to household chores being passed on to the next generation.”
“I am joining the Ariel #ShareTheLoad campaign at BlogAdda and blogging about the prejudice related to household chores being passed on to the next generation.”
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